When I was little, all the way up to when I was in high school, I always played video games. I still play video games. But, back then, there was definitely something magical about having school, and then coming home and really not having many, if any, responsibilities. Some of the best moments I remember in my life were playing video games at home after school, and I can remember vividly the grade I was in, which games I was playing, what else was happening in my life at that time, what the current weather was outside or which season it was when I was playing, and what music I was listening to around that time. Games recall a lot of those times for me, and a lot of those times recall what game I was playing.
Then life happened. Around grade 11 I started getting really busy, and that continued into grade 12 and university. I still played video games, but not how I used to. I got my first girlfriend, I got my first real non-work experience job, I moved out, and I had to prioritize differently.
For a few years, I hardly played any video games. From 2008 to 2011ish, I didn't do much in the way of gaming. I played through some games, but I also felt that same guilt. I remember, having learning this new way of living on my own; working lots, running my own consulting business, and taking care of things on what seemed like a never ending todo list, that those were the things that were important. If I had things on my list, I had to get those done first. I didn't play a game because I was disciplined enough to myself to prioritize that lower. I got to the point where I was so incredibly busy and had my time filled with so much, that any time I was idle and just relaxing, sitting down, drinking a glass of water, and doing nothing but listening to the wind outside, I felt guilty, like I wasn't doing anything and I should be.
Obviously I still prioritize if there's critical things I need to do, but a big thing I've learned in the last 2 years especially is that balance is actually really important. Life gets stupid busy, and that's a lot of the reason I decided to make a goals topic for this year. I wanted something that was fun to look forward to accomplishing. For me, this is finishing a backlog so that I can get to newer and exciting games and look forward to releases without going "gah, gotta get that game but I really shouldn't because I haven't finished all of these games...".
I can understand that, thinking from your perspective. The last year has definitely been an adventure for you, and because of the little productivity, I can see how 50 hours in a game would seem like something that would definitely trigger guilt. For me, it doesn't, because obviously the 50 hours isn't all at once, and it's spread out, with plenty of work and other commitments between [although I try not to go for too long without playing the game, especially if the story is important...sorry Twilight Princess...]. I think you'll be able to get back to the point of playing a game and really enjoying it once your work life gains some momentum and productivity increases again, and I hope when you hopefully go home this Christmas that Devo and I will see you on Minecraft again! That was a blast last year. You have a mind of an entrepreneur though, and the last year has definitely not been a waste. It's been an experience that you've learned a ton from, and the fact that you're not discouraged and still diving into productivity on new ventures and ideas is awesome.Ray wrote:I'm not saying that what I'm doing is in any way better than gaming. Not at all. Personally, I've had very little productivity this year and my social life can't be that much better than an average hardcore gamer's. But I still feel some kind of ineffable guilt in even contemplating spending my money on a MGSV and sitting down for 50 hours to engross myself in the game and its lore/previous games.
With regards to Netflix and TV, I'd much rather be playing and enjoying a game, because for me, that's where a sense of accomplishment comes in. But at the same time, if Netflix or watching TV, or even working on a project like Ray mentioned gives you that sense of accomplishment and joy, awesome. Do that! Heck, I've been watching Magic School Bus on Netflix the last couple weeks. Even doing nothing once in awhile I think is totally fine, and that's the part that took me forever to realize. The biggest thing is knowing when you've slacked off too long and need to do something that needs to or should be done, and I think we're all smart enough to do that. It's not like being a kid that doesn't do any work and avoids it at all costs and plays WoW all day or misses work to play a game.
Totally. For me, I have the social part together for the most part. I have my friends from church, I play drums [both at church and for other bands], I know a lot of people from work and a lot of the students who attend/attended the school, and have a connection with a lot of clients. I see people a lot, so for me, being able to come home and isolate for awhile and settle down with a video game in the comfort of my living room and get away from everything is awesome. I get right into whatever environment the game might offer, and just relax. Heck, even when I'm at work and need to relax, I pop into my office, close the door, pop on video game music [usually Zelda soundtracks], and start working.Warp2063 wrote:I had a blast playing a tabletop game called Betrayal at House on the Hill last night, and then a couple rounds of Cards Against Humanity.
I think that's what I want. More together.
But at the same time, I 100% get what you're talking about. Some of the absolute best times I've had over the last 2 years have been hanging with Devo and AC Dasher again on a regular basis. It doesn't matter if we're out getting food or coffee, playing a board game, playing a video game, listening to music, taking photos, or just sitting around doing nothing. It just feels awesome and is a total recharge to hang out in person and be together.
That's why I still renew the domain name every year. No plans on cancelling. This coming February-March will be 10 years. We've all grown up together.Monkey wrote:I still hang around here because I love you guys
Games are cool, other stuff is cool too. Work and love what you do, but take time to relax and get some balance. We doin' that? K cool.